Sue and I were talking about our pet peeves last nite (till past 3am.. Whoops.. We had a lot of peeves I guess). While we were rattling them off, we realized that some of our *friends* had these characteristics, and we didn't even know. Is it because they are your friends that they can push every one of your buttons, and it may or may not affect you? Is there a certain level of friendship that gives an individual justification for doing what other people would get their a$$ kicked doing? Is it because they are your friends that it *does* piss you off, but you let them do it anyways? whats the line that determines which friends can do this, and which ones cant? Sure, you might be able to take it from certain people for a while, but sooner or later its going to eat at you until one of two things happens: you have a falling out, or you bring it up with them. With the latter, you either create girly drama between that group of friends, they apologize but don't change (consciously), or they apologize but don't change (unconsciously).
there's a certain level of friendship where, apparently, people can say/do things to eachother that would normally cause acquaintances to "have words". This is what confuses me. If they are your friends, wouldn't you treat them *better*? If they are your friends, wouldn't you know their buttons and avoid them? If they are your friends, wouldn't you treat them the way you want to be treated? I know its terribly cliche, but its obvious: treat others the way you'd want to be treated, especially people you deem your friends. Does being comfortable with someone justify walking over them, or treating them worse than you'd treat a stranger?
think of your pet peeves. The ones that REALLY get you riled up.
think about when someone does this, how pissed do you get?
now think, does one or more of your friends do this to you, maybe on a regular basis?
better yet, do you do this to one or more of your *own* friends?
of course I am not saying that I am perfect and treat my friends perfectly either, but its something to think about. Let's try not to be oblivious in our actions towards our own friends.
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posted by Rich @
10/07/2004 12:52:00 PM
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